“Just be OK with it,” is what someone once told me. I nodded my head in agreement thinking, “yeah, I can do that.” But thinking that you are OK with something and feeling it deep in your heart and accepting what you might not really deep down think is OK, are two different things.
It’s a little bit like getting older and realizing that you can’t do the same things you used to (and most likely don’ t have the desire to) but nonetheless you eventually get to a point where you are OK with it. It’s a process of letting go, being free of the prison oand locked bars around you that you placed there yourself.
It also relates to living abroad. It’s an acceptance that things are not the same. That you can’t live your life in the same way as you used to and you either have to just be OK with it and accept it or you fight it and get frustrated. The only person that loses is you. It does take a little mental work though. It doesn’t come completey natural. It takes a certain kind of awareness of knowing what it is exactly that gets under your skin and why and then deconstructing it to find out how you can make peace with it. That and finding the good in it. There’s always a brigher side. It’s up to you to find it and make the decision to look at it.
I am starting to be OK with a lot of things – many relating to life abroad, my own personal struggles and also most importantly my limitations. Not being “free” to go grocery shopping 24 hours a day is one of them, but I made peace with that a long time ago. In the end it’s me that calls them limitations as there are likely other areas where I will soar high above any perceived ceiling I imagine there to be. It’s my commitment to find this, embrace it and enjoy the process along the way.